At any moment you can choose to create your most happy and fulfilling life by taking inspired and focused action rather than doing the same old thing and waiting for something different to happen.
Here are five techniques you can use to become a conscious creator and live your best life right now.
Best Life Technique #1
Harness the Law of Attraction – It is simple. Ask for what you want and it will come to you. The problem is that we aren’t always clear in our asking and aren’t always aware of HOW we are asking. Our words may indicate that we want something, but what we believe we can have may actually contradict what we SAY we want.
At the same time what we FEEL is based on our beliefs and our feeling state is the context from which we ask. The attracting power rests in our feeling state because Law of Attraction functions on an energetic level.
If we are unaware of what we are unconsciously requesting through our belief-based feelings, we will be surprised by the results and probably disappointed. The irony is that the disappointing results just offer more evidence to support the subconscious belief that got us what we didn’t want in the first place. Luckily there is an easy fix.
Just look at the results you are getting and accept that what you get is what you subconsciously believe you will get. Then take that belief and change it little by little by finding a thought that feels better than the original belief and moves you in the direction of what you really want. Then look for another better feeling thought, and so on and so on. The idea is to consciously use your thoughts to move you into the feeling space of what you really want.
When you are vibrating in the feeling space of what you want, you will attract experiences with a similar vibration/feeling and collect data to support your new belief. As you reinforce your new belief about what is possible for you, the old limiting belief fades away.
Notice that in the case of Law of Attraction, the focus is on you and what you are thinking and feeling. However, sometimes you can trip yourself up and back track by looking at other’s behavior rather than your own. If this happens, try technique number two.
Best Life Technique #2
Heal yourself instead of trying to fix others. When your attention is on how others are behaving and you are seeing their behavior as the cause of your unhappiness, you have given your creative power over to them. You are letting their behavior control how you feel and consequently how you create.
The tendency is then to want to fix them so you don’t have to feel bad. But that only heads you in the opposite direction of where your power lies and where your focus of attention should be – on yourself. We usually give our power over because we do not trust ourselves to create what we want for ourselves, so we look outside ourselves for the remedy.
Instead of distracting yourself with fixing others, start by identifying the reason(s) you don’t trust yourself. That is the wound that needs to be healed in order to reclaim your creative power and make different choices. When you find that weak spot, do the work of healing. Healing occurs when you shed light on the disempowering belief.
You can begin to chip away at it and weaken its power by questioning its validity. As a misaligned belief is weakened, it can be replaced with beliefs that are more aligned with who and how you want to be. When you notice yourself trying to fix someone or something else, make it a regular practice to bring your attention back to yourself and what you are thinking and feeling. Then heal.
Best Life Technique #3
Choose to open your heart whenever you feel it closing. We all know what it feels like to interact with our hearts wide open, like the way you feel when you are in love or you hold your newborn child or are engrossed in a creative activity.
We also know what it feels like to engage with a closed and controlling heart, like when you are feeling taken advantage of or threatened or disrespected. With an open heart, we see goodness that we want to embrace. With a closed heart, we see threats that we want to control and vanquish. An open-hearted stance is welcoming, open and curious.
A closed-hearted stance is combative, defensive and controlling. Fortunately, it is a one step process to open instead of close our hearts. Make it part of your routine to do things that create that sense of open-heartedness inside you.
The more you fill your day with those activities, the more easily you will engage the mundane or even difficult exchanges from spacious curiosity. Of course you are human with an ego living with other humans with their own egos, so staying perpetually open-hearted is unrealistic. You will close your heart from time to time or maybe multiple times a day; but you always have the option to open it any time you choose. Although it may not necessarily feel easy or even possible once you have already close your heart there are steps you can take to re-open.
The easiest way to open your heart after closing it is to refocus your attention on something that reliably generates an open hearted feeling – like playing with a pet or a child or doing something creative. Once you feel your heart opening again, go back to the situation where you closed off and see if you can re-engage while remaining open. That’s it. Just practice opening and reopening your heart over and over and over again, until it becomes a habit and way of being.
Best Life Technique #4
Give what you want to receive. This is the golden rule we all know – Do unto others as you would have done unto you. However, the simplicity belies the challenge it presents. When others are being kind, respectful, helpful and nice, it is easy to be kind, respectful, helpful and nice right back. But this rule is not for those cases really.
This rule is the practice of a conscious creator who understands the Law of Attraction and how the vibration of their feeling state attracts similarly vibrating people and experiences to them. So the receiving actually begins with the giving – the vibration we give out through the way that we are feeling.
It starts with us. To wait for others to show up in a state that makes it easy for us to give kindness to them is futile and wastes time because we cannot control how or when they show up with us.
It makes more sense to put out into the world what you would like to receive for three reasons:
- Waiting for others to “make us feel good” focuses attention on something we do not yet have and creates a sense of lack, which FEELS BAD. Feeling bad actually creates a dynamic of asking for what you don’t want
- You have total control over the depth and frequency of your own giving
- Giving help, kindness, respect, and love to another being FEELS GOOD, which is what we want to activate and attract more of into our lives. So always give first.
These are reliable techniques for moving toward what you want to create AND the require presence. Your ability to remain present, particularly in challenging situations, is greatly influenced by the amount of energy and focus you have at any given moment. So I offer you technique #5 as both a method of conscious creating and as a supportive practice for nurturing the presence necessary to cultivate other techniques for living your best life.
Best Life Technique #5
Balance your energy flow. Balancing your energy flow is tremendously important in terms of having the capacity, presence of mind, and focus to actually practice any of the previous techniques. An indicator that your are not managing your flow at an optimum level is reactivity.
The more reactive you are to those around you, the more likely it is that you are out of balance. This imbalance is easy to rectify – just take a break and do whatever relaxes, replenishes and revives you to a level that makes it easy for you to remain present and thoughtfully responsive in any situation, especially in the face of others’ reactivity.
For example: simply maintaining a daily meditation practice (as little as 5 min) and regular exercise can help to regulate your energy flow. Both of these are essential elements in my own balancing routine, and I feel “off” and less present when I neglect these areas. If these don’t resonate with you, tune into the things that you do that make you feel most alive, grounded and like yourself. Make sure you do them as often as is necessary to remain at your own optimum level of presence.
In a nutshell, all these techniques are essentially ways to practice living in a feeling state that is in alignment with what you want to experience in your life.
These methods are all immediately accessible and can be effective if you are willing to practice and commit to FEELING what you want to FEEL regardless of circumstances. The power lies in you and is there now if you are willing to use it.